Medical Drama

g-InsuranceDenied.widecThose who follow the Facebook page for my blog likely saw me make a post yesterday regarding the shooting and denial of medical care of a trans activist in Pakistan recently. Along with that link, I mentioned that I’ve been dealing with a lot of medical drama the past month or so, which I will discuss somewhat today. While I will be explaining why I’ve not made a post in close to a month, I’ll also go into how this is an issue for the community at large as well as some basic educational stuff. Now that the basic “introduction paragraph” that all your professors harp on you about is out of the way, let’s get on with the details! Continue reading

Dealings With the Medical Community

So yesterday, I finally had my appointment with the VA endocrinology department to get them to cover my hormones. To say it went poorly would be an understatement. So today, let’s talk about my experience, and how I worked to prevent it from being worse, and how you can do the same with your own medical providers. Because sadly, mine was not an isolated incident, and even when going to your regular doctor, you can run into issues. Continue reading

An Attempted Return to a Less Enlightened Era

Election day is one week away, and early voting ends this Friday. I spoke a few weeks back about just how insane the Republican party is this year, courtesy of pressure from the Tea Party. However, we’ve seen some major headline cases in the past few weeks showing just how crazy some of these people are, and it worries me. Now, I mentioned before that normally, I’m not a single party voter. Not all Democrats are good and not all Republicans are bad. But this year, we have Republicans trying to push back on more than just gay rights, but also women’s rights. And the sad thing is, some of these Republicans are women themselves. Continue reading

Words and the Power They Have: On Reclaiming Slurs

I mentioned way back at the start of this blog how there have been issues in the past with trans men using the word tranny and this upsetting trans women. Well, this issue came up again locally with a trans man casually throwing the word around and began a bit of conflict within one of the local trans groups of some members saying not to use the word and others arguing for the use of the word. Since this is an issue that continues to be fought amongst not just the trans community, but most minority communities, I felt like talking about it today. Continue reading

National Coming Out Day 2012

This one’s quite a bit late, but I wanted to make sure I did my homework first. This Thursday, October 11th, is National Coming Out Day (NCOD), a day dedicated to celebrating our abiliy to be out and open about ourselves as well as raise awareness of LGBT issues with others. This is an excuse for some to dress up in as much pride gear as they want without going overboard like they might at pride parades. But it can also be so much more.

Locally, we’re encouraging people to use this day to come out to their elected officials, national and local, and make them aware of their constituency and just how many of us there are. And I encourage this, not just for local level, but for all people around the world. If you live in a country where being LGBT is not against the law, why not tell your leaders that you’re here, and you’d like some of the same rights as everyone else? Continue reading

Some Tips For Pride For Heteronormative Cis Folks

I’m actually typing this up on Sunday night, right after I got home from our local pride parade while it’s still fresh, but you all won’t see it posted until Tuesday. Anyway, as I said, I just got home from my first ever pride parade (we do it in September instead of June here in Texas because of the summer heat), and for the most part, it was a positive experience. However, about halfway through or so, something kind of disturbing happened, and I wanted to discuss it, and give some advice out there for those who aren’t queer in some way. Continue reading

Missed Pronouns and Making it Worse

This past weekend, one of my roommates threw a pool party for members of the group she runs.  I’m a member of the group as well, and I sort of know most of the people who attended, and would even consider some of them to be friends.  I was wearing a lovely one piece swimsuit with a skirt attachment (pictured below), and yet, it seemed like everyone who was previously good with referring to me as a woman was suddenly referring to me as a guy.   Others made a conscious effort to refer to me via any form of gender identification at all. These are people who have never known me as anything but Caitlin, based entirely on the knowledge that I’m trans and how I look.

Now, these were all slips, and I was able to recognize them as such, but there was one point that it got really hurtful. One of the other girls, who I consider a friend, asked me to help unclasp her bra so she could get changed into her swimsuit. I agreed, and as I began unfastening the hooks, she said “Thank you, Sir. Ma’am. Whatever you are.” She immediately apologized, then apologized again a minute or two later, but I don’t think she understood what part she needed to apologize for. I understand that she caught herself in making a slip and made a move to correct herself, but in overcorrecting, she made it worse.

So today I write for you for you, my cis readers, to help you out when you fumble and stumble and call your trans friends and allies the wrong names or terms. Here are some basic points to keep in mind. Continue reading