5th Annual Hug A Trans* Person Day

I mentioned a while back that there’s a queer themed holiday almost every month of the year. Well, today is one of those days, thus I’m doing my blog post a day early this week. Today is the 5th annual Hug A Trans* Person Day. I still love that we have holidays like this, as they add a bit of cheer and mirth to what is an otherwise difficult life for many of us. And this one is very well timed, as those of us who are college students here in the states are in the midst of our finals or preparing for them, so a bit of levity is much needed.

I’m tired from a long run earlier, working at the youth center tonight, and needing to job hunt as the semester draws to a close, so I’ll just leave you all with this short post today. I’ll be back on Tuesday with more good stuff for you all. Have a good weekend, and remember to only hug people you personally know!


Physical Differences in Sexual Identity

Sexuality and identity symbols (not a complete list)

Sexuality and identity symbols (not a complete list)

Last time I began addressing the issue of why trans* people are not all intersex, even if some intersex people are trans* identified. I left off mentioning that I would discuss more in depth the physical differences, because they are pretty drastic.

As Natalie Reed pointed out a while back, transexual bodies and genitals do not react, function, etc. in the same manner as cissexual bodies of the same configuration. As she points out, the penis of a cis man, a trans man, and a trans woman all react differently from one another, more drastically different than within members of the same group. In other words, a trans woman’s penis is more different from a cis man’s penis than that same cis man’s penis is from another cis man’s penis, in regards to functioning. This is something I discussed briefly a couple weeks back while discussing how our sexuality shifts. Continue reading

Differing Sexual Identities

Intersex Pride Flag

Intersex Flag

An acquaintance and reader asks, “why don’t we consider trans* bodies that have medically transitioned in some way as intersex? Why isn’t there a separate sex category for altered bodies?”

This is a long and complicated answer, so settle in for a long one today readers.

There can be arguments made for transitioning/transitioned bodies to be seen as a sort of “artificial intersex”, and I’ve discussed this with others in the trans* community in the past. Once we begin medical transition, we will never again be 100% male or female in body, blending bits of both. So why don’t we consider them to be intersex? Continue reading

Evolving Sexuality

QuestionAbout a week ago, an acquaintance of mine asked me a question about how being asexual works with being in the leather lifestyle. This is an interesting question with multiple levels that I could answer, though I only addressed one level when answering this person. The thing that I explained was that the question being asked was a sort of variation of the “how do you have sex?” question that a lot of trans people and lesbians receive. There’s this assumption that being leather is all about kinky sex, the play aspects that everyone sees in movies and books and TV. Continue reading

Health Concerns for the Transgender Community

BHWI_logoRGBWith all the discrimination and uncomfortable topics we’ve seen in the news of late, I felt the need to do a happier post today. And since last week was national LGBT health awareness week, let’s combine the two.

Health concerns are important to think about as trans folk. Trans men need to manage their weight before they can start on testosterone due to health concerns, and trans women are more likely to put on weight once we start on hormones. Likewise, we both need to exercise more once we get started: trans men to build muscle and trans women to minimize muscle loss. I know a lot of trans women who don’t want to keep muscle for fear of looking like body builders, but the fact is that muscle helps prevent the buildup of fat. We’ll still build fat in the important areas, but working out helps prevent the extraneous fat we put on. Continue reading

Petitions, Politics, and Transition

Someone linked this petition to me a couple nights ago, and I feel the need to address it. Partially because I’m pretty sure I know the person who started it (I live in the same town, and it’s a small college town so I know a good sized portion of the trans community here), and partially because this petition nonsense is getting out of hand.

But first, let me address the issue for those not in the know. The White House has a site set up called “We the People” specifically for people to create petitions on issues they feel are important. These are issues like requesting that the government severs all ties with Uganda and passes sanctions on said country if they do pass the “kill the gays” bill in the next few weeks as they have promised. These petitions have 30 days to get 25,000 signatures, and if they do so, then the administration will look at the issue and address it. Continue reading

Growth and Changes

A few nights back, we had a discussion about sex (not safe sex, but sex as a pleasurable act) in one of my local groups. And a lot of the discussions we had during the evening, as well as some I’ve had with others recently, have really helped me figure myself out more in some ways, and confused the issue more in others.

For example, in talking about how there’s really no word for me and my attractions, it really came down that my attractions are based on personality type, and the personality type I like is very atypical of men here in the U.S., but not non-existent. Good examples of both cis men and women that are the kinds of people I like would be Neil Gaiman and Rachel Maddow: educated, continues to educate themselves, uses their intelligence rather than letting it go to waste, sensitive, open minded, etc. So in that regard, I guess I’m panromantic, just have a type that is rare in cis men. Continue reading